Rules to Life

In life there are three rules you MUST follow. I know it might sound like these rules mean nothing, but in reality, they will help you understand this thing called life and help you grow as person.

Growing up I never had that positive role model to show me the correct way on how to live life. I had to learn the hard which is learning by example. I knew if I wanted to be anything in life, I had to work very hard. I follow these rules and I’m not where I want to be but I am so glad I’m not where I use to be.


Question of the Day

What motivates me to get out of bed in the morning is waking up seeing my family. There was a time when I went a whole month without seeing my family, which hurt me. So waking up seeing their faces lets me know that I can go on with my day being productive and positive.
Comment and let me know what motivates you every morning.


Positive Affirmation #4

When you get tired of hurting over what someone else did to you, you will stand up and say enough is enough! Only YOU can make that decision to open your eyes and see that you are worth more then what they are showing you. Only YOU will know that feeling for when its time to stand up and walk away. Only YOU will know when its time for you to dismiss anything that doesn’t bring you joy or happiness. Once YOU do finally stand to walk away, you have finally recognized your worth.
Know your worth, so other people won’t tell you or show you how much you are worth!



Are you surrounding yourself with people who genuinely love you? Support you? Believe in you? Are you taking care of yourself? Exercising? Eating healthy? Meditating? Are you getting the mental help that you need, or are you continuing to push it off, hoping that it will go away?
It all starts with you loving yourself. Loving yourself is very important! There were things I allowed to happen to me because I didn’t love myself. As I get older, I realize I am the only person that can show myself how to love myself.
Start loving yourself again. Do ALL the things that you love doing and have fun doing them! Do you like to write? Well, start writing! Do you like creating art? Well, learn how to become an artist. It starts with you. Make yourself happy!


Go Throught to Get Through#2

“Your appointment is scheduled with your therapist. Please arrive fifteen minutes early to fill out additional paperwork.”

 When I hung up the phone, I thought to myself “I don’t need therapy. I don’t need anyone that do not know me all of my business.” I was fourteen years old when I first started therapy. At that time in my life, I was dealing with so many issues. My physician suggests that I consult with a therapist and proceed to give me a list of numbers to a known therapist in my area. I was so scared because I didn’t know what to expect. When that day came for me to go to my scheduled therapist appointment, I decided to bring along a family member to my first appointment. I was so nervous because I didn’t know what to expect. 

As I got out of the cab, I proceed to walk into the office building. I walk through the door and finally met my therapist. The first session confrim to me that I didn’t need to come back. We didn’t connect as I assumed we were supposed to do. I decided that day to never return to that building. Seven years later, when I became a wife, I realize how important it would have been if I decided to talk with a therapist back then when I was a teenager. From that moment forward my life became a living hell.

I decided to talk with a therapist because, by this time, I was hurting inside. I wanted answers to questions that were never going to be answered the way I wanted them to. There were feelings I thought I could suppress with alcohol and other recreational drugs, but it didn’t work and in the end, caused more damage. I even got incarcerated and couldn’t be around my family. I was a hot mess. I needed help, and I needed it bad. I decided to give counseling one more try. Once I return from the first session, I started to feel a tab bit better, but as I continued, it started to get better. I developed a relationship with my therapist, and my therapist helped me become a better person. Well I helped myself become a better person because I put in the work. My therapist was there to help me release all the hurt I caused myself. My therapist was there to help me forgive myself.

Getting help is very important when the thought of suicide comes in mind. Sometimes it can be scary, but you must follow through with talking out your problems. Here are very important choices I’ve made that help me. If you are experiencing feelings that you don’t understand, try these options so you can know what to do next:

1). Prevention Line

The most important thing you can do is call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number at 1-800-273-8255 or visit the website at Once you contact the hotline a crisis worker will assist you in making sure that you are not alone. You will be asked questions regarding your safety, feelings, social situation, and any thoughts of suicide. If the counselor feels you are in danger, they will speak with you about accessing emergency services or gather additional contact information to ensure your safety. The chat counselor will work with you to create a safety plan if necessary.

2). Family and Friends

Some family and friends may not know about the attempt of suicide, but for the family and friends that know, they may need time to process what happened. Your journey is not their journey. If you need time on explaining to your family and friends, why then take your time. It is no rush to explain a situation where something serious happens to you.

3). Find a therapist

A good therapist can help you with your experience. They can also help with putting together a plan to find different ways to express life stressors. A therapist can help support you going forward, once you are no longer in crisis. Therapy can help you learn about what you’re feeling, why you might be feeling it, and how to cope. 

4). Be kind to yourself

While being kind to yourself, you will learn the number one thing that you will always need to do. LOVE YOURSELF! Learn that, because once you do, you will stop trying to harm yourself.

5). Take care of your health

Taking care of your health is very important. Exercising, eating healthy, getting enough rest, and having healthy people do something to your spirit. I can have a HUGE impact on your health and mood.

6). Try Support Groups

Attend support groups, or if you dont have one in your area, create one. Different support groups such as depression, or other mental health conditions, and surviving suicide attempts help and show that you are not alone.

7). Someone you trust

Talk with someone you can trust when you are going through it. Let them know what happens and why. Supporting someone that attempted suicide does wonder about that attempted suicide. Just knowing that you had cared for that person when they were at their lowest during that time is very brave. 

I am not a therapist, but these are some things that help me get through with my situation. I wanted to share with you how much it helps just by talking with someone. If these tips don’t work for you, please make sure that you call the National Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Don’t give up is the motto, and ALWAYS remember to #beboldstandbackup

Positive Affirmation #3

When I started BBSBU, I was uncertain. Uncertain that people wouldn’t support me. Uncertain that people would judge me. But most importantly, uncertain of myself. As I begin to show people who I am, that uncertainly began to fade. I started to open up about what made me, me. I began to gain confidence knowing I AM important. Knowing what I have to offer is what people need every day.

It all starts with you and how you view yourself. YOU have to tell yourself that you are important. You are the only person that can build your confidence. So when you are low on confidence, remind yourself these things to pick yourself back up:

1) Think positive about yourself

2)Be kind and generous

3) Set a small goal and achieve it.

4) Empower yourself

5) Last but surely isn’t least, Be grateful!

If you do all these things, you can boost your confidence in no time!


Blessed List

When I look at my family, I realize how blessed I am. To have a husband who cherishes me, understands me, and loves me reminds me of how blessed I am. To have children that adore me, wishes the best for me, and that look up to me reminds me how blessed I am.

There are things you are dealing with right now that is causing you to stress. Take a deep breath! Take your mind to a place of calmness. In your mind or on a notepad, list the things that would consider you blessed. Next time you are feeling stressed and don’t know what to do, refer back to your Blessed List.